TACKLING NEW MOM STRESS

TACKLING NEW MOM STRESS

In a Nepalese society, baby is always an important factor for a married couple. The time now has changed, people decide and plan to have a baby no matter how late or early. No matter how much planning couple make, we never talked about how do we feel getting pregnant , discussions about physical changes, hormonal changes that leads to entire fluctuations inside our body, the psychological changes the woman goes through.Nobody told after baby life and postpartum life , nobody ever shared us that life after having baby can be sometimes weird. A little bundle of joy that cute little baby can bring so much happiness throughout the family , its unexplained how joyful a mother and a father becomes to have that baby in their arms .But that little bundle of joy can also add stress.

In our Hindu society , a new mom have to equally play the role of daughter in law as well. You cant excuse you are only a mother, but you play equal responsibility to manage the home as well .A mom is a wife, a daughter in law and many laws in relation. Thus, a mom has to take care that everything is in balance and should go on like before.

A new mom has to keep in mind that a new born or a toddler wont be in that state always, The time will pass on and the baby will grow bigger , she might probably add so many excitements in life again . The baby days wont last longer soon you and your partner will have better grasp with life and baby again.There is no doubt that a mother and a child has a strongest bond however nurturing another human being adds additional time which might become stress in later days.The reasons of stress could be

Never done before.

A new mom has never given birth to any baby before thus, she can feel loaded to take care of a whole new human being.She has to learn breastfeeding, has to learn diapering, has to learn cleaning poops and potties.In Nepalese culture,mother has to be in postpartum (sutkeri) period for minimum two months where she has to nurture herself to make her body stronger along with the baby.Staying within boundaries for two months with so many limits can bring lots of stress for a new mom.

Long routines and less time

With all the care and nurturing that children require, as well as the additional demands of extra people in the household, most mothers feel a shortness of time. Whether it’s a lack of sufficient time to get the laundry done, time to spend just playing with the kids, time to one’s self, or time for dozens of other important activities, many mothers find that there are simply not enough hours in the day to do everything that they need or would like to do.

Relationship responsibility

Specially a home stay mom, she has to spend maximum time with the baby whether feeding , nap for a baby , breastfeeding. Sometimes other relationships backseat .Mothers of young children specially those who are very restless, these mothers may feel torn out and still have to maintain energy to do everything behind just looking baby. She has to take care of baby laundry, feeding the baby , baby nap. Trying to balance the household and baby can automatically bring sort of stress.

Time for oneself

Not having a baby can induce only one guilt that a woman couldnot have a child but having a baby can add hundred pounds of jobs to fulfill. A mother rarely finds time to take care of herself , a home stay mom has equal responsibilities towards taking care of home too.She can tend to forget her routine of self care like taking a time to time bath, pedicare, manicare etc.

Taking charge of the baby

Mother is the only in charge of the baby.Yes, definitely other family members are too but mother has to take whole responsibility of the baby. From the days when toddlers are climbing the walls and putting everything in their mouths to the days when they go schools, the dangers keeps on whirlwinding and they might stress out mothers .

TAKING CARE WAYS FOR NEW MOMS

1) Enough sleep

Sleep is the most effective method for a new mom to remain fresh and sound.There is no other medicine better than a sound sleep .Rest as much as you can, take a nap while baby is sleeping or take a nap on a passengers seat in a bus or car, or rest wherever you get chance to sit alone.

2)Healthy food

A new mom may often feel tired . Whether she is breastfeeding, whether she is carrying a baby, she might loss enough energy that she might need to feed herself time and again.Food is only factor that can keep her moving along with baby.Thus, food intake is must for a new mom .

3)Go for a walk

An office mom can refresh her mind in her office hours. A home stay mom can atleast go for a walk, visit parks to make some time for herself.

4) Expect variations in emotions

Its perfectly normal to have different emotions time to time.Lack of sleep, breastfeeding or formula milk in every two hours gap even at night can leave you dizzy .You can expect a roller coaster of emotions at the same time.Some moms experience baby blues till three to four days of baby birth.But if she experiences this for longer time, she can be prone to depression.

The important aspect to remember is not every mothers should have faced or should have to face this situation , but most of them can go through stress either less or more. It completely depends on mother"s ability of how she can cope through this state of motherhood.